I’ve known Hiroki for over twenty years, we’ve grown up together. 

For the last ten, disability has been part of how the world sees him. But it is only one of the ways he understands himself.

He is a husband, a father, a friend, a leader. He’s both British and Japanese. Strong in some parts of his life, vulnerable in others. As his wife, I can never make a neutral portrait of him. I see one version. He sees another. Our children see another still.

As He Is begins in the space between those versions: between how we see ourselves, how we imagine others see us, and how we are actually seen. It doesn’t try to decide which one is true. It asks what happens when all of them are allowed to exist at once.